![]() Frank Selmo - WANA commons As a child we give and receive unconditional love - it is such a shame we lose that instinct as we grow. I read a self-help book many years ago and a very simple concept put forward by the author (I cannot remember who wrote the book) talked about being a ‘go-giver’ not a ‘go-getter’. It was the common thought at in that time that to be successful you had to aggressively ‘go’ and ‘get’ what you wanted to become successful. In my younger, more ambitious days that is how I thought as well. My ‘friends’ were those people who I thought could be useful to me and each situation I faced was approached with a ‘what can I get out of this?’ attitude. I have learned that most experiences, good and bad, have a way of shaping and changing your views of the world, and of other people. I was one of the world’s most cynical ‘glass half empty’ people, and, being a lawyer, have always insisted on proof before accepting a concept. Well, now I have the proof. My roller coaster ride of transition from lawyer to writer has been disappointing, uplifting, upsetting, exhilarating, and above all educational and instructional – mostly in a very positive way. When you start out as a writer, with no connections, no money, the IT skills of a goldfish and limited time, but with the skill and genius of all the best writers who ever lived (sadly, so far unrecognized by anyone but me and my cat), promoting your product and your skills is challenging (I have learned that ‘challenging’ is the ‘in’ word for ‘bloody difficult’). The good news is that the community of writers has proven to be warm and receptive, welcoming and friendly. Being a Go-Giver is definitely the way forward – I have given what time and resources - re tweeting, sharing posts, reviewing books, and helping other writers in whatever way I can – I can spare. I can honestly say that these small, helpful acts have come back to me a hundredfold and I have built up a wonderful group of writer and IT friends who will help me with any problem or need. Writers really are, in general, a selfless and giving group – I am proud to aspire to be one of them. I am not an expert in writing, marketing or IT. I am an expert in Law, I am reasonably proficient as a piano player, and I am half decent as a beach fisherman. I do not claim to be imparting expert knowledge in these strange blogs. I am just sharing some of the more positive meanderings of my experiences. If you get time to look around my site you will get to know me more – check out my book and film reviews, my family pics – and stay with me on this personal journey to fame, fortune and fun. Then, when I am a household name, you will be able to say “I knew him when he was had a weird blog, with a range of fur balls, and was talking a load of....” For now, you will have to put up with my alternative views and opinions, with the odd touch of humor, and fur! As usual here are the cuddly cat pics. Please register (on the right) to keep updated – and follow me on twitter : https://twitter.com/arthurcrandon and like my facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/ArthurCrandonAuthor Thank you for your time. Happy writing.
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2/15/2013 07:25:41 pm
Hi Arthur
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 08:59:41 am
TYhank you Mike. Glad to hear you enjoyed my blog, and have had a similar experience
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Liza
2/15/2013 11:38:14 pm
Great blog! Arthur :-)
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 09:00:19 am
:-) You are too kind...
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2/16/2013 09:17:08 am
A lovely post, Arthur! I started blogging and tweeting in September 2012 but I have made so many new friends including some of my favourite authors. I read mainly historical romance and get a real buzz when an author takes the time to make a personal comment on one of my reviews.
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 09:01:23 am
Yes, feed back on what we do is wonderful. It helps us to keep going.
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2/16/2013 11:45:52 am
Very much appreciated this post Arthur. Important reminder and lovely sentiment. Thanks for posting.
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 09:02:11 am
Thank you so much Allison. :-)
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2/16/2013 12:11:46 pm
Nice post Arthur and spot on. We seem to have passed the stage of where can I get and who can get me there, to reach the hallowed ground of where can I get and will I have help getting there and who can I help back. With great groups like ASMSG on twitter there's always back-up from those you'd expect to be competitive but in fact turn out supportive. YAY Authors !!
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 09:03:15 am
Yes, there is so much support and help out there if we ask for it. ASMSG is great
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2/16/2013 05:23:55 pm
You're right, Arthur. Authors are the most generous people in the world, and you are no exception. I hope all that kindness comes back to you ten-fold and that you achieve your fame and fortune soon. I will certainly be one of the people who will be proud to say I knew you when.
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arthur crandon
2/20/2013 09:06:19 am
Thank you so much Tricia, you are very kind. Good luck with all your issues.
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Meet the authorArthur Crandon is a lawyer, the boring office kind, not the exciting (and much better paid) courtroom type. He worked as a solicitor for a while before embarking on an interesting life overseas. He has spent most of his time in recent years in South East Asia, more recently in Hong Kong. Before that, Arthur lived and worked in the Philippine Islands.
He loves to fish, and play the piano – but spends most of his time writing, eating, drinking and sleeping – usually, but not always, in that order. His first book, Deadly Election, draws on his strange imagination and his experiences, together with those of others, in a land that, beneath a veneer of civilisation, operates like the Wild West and is very dangerous to innocent and gullible foreigners. STAY IN TOUCH
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